Lifestyle, Plus Size Fashion, Reviews

Part & Parcel : Plus Size Fashion and Plus To Plus Shopping

Part & Parcel’s mission is to make fashion that fits the plus community, and to empower the community to style and share their fabulousness while offering the option of earning real money, Plus to Plus.

The foundation of Part & Parcel is based on sharing these garments with others, Plus body to Plus body – whether IRL or online, making meaningful connections with others and sharing fashion that actually is designed for plus bodies.

*shown here is the long sleeve blouse paired with cigarette pant with the flat gladiator sandal.

And that’s not all that’s different about Part & Parcel, wait for it…. Dimensional sizing!!! Dimensional Sizing is exclusive to Part & Parcel, and it’s changing the game for how you find your fit; let me break it down for you Loves, first you choose your clothing style and color, second you pick your size (from size 14 up to a 36) then you can opt for dimensional sizing in the bicep, bust, waist, or calf. And each pair of shoes already comes in a wide width – so no worries there.

The price range for this current collection ranges from $45 to $140 and includes:

The Shell – Standard or Bust+

The Long-Sleeve Blouse – Standard or Bust+

The Cigarette Pant

The Stretch Ponte Pant

The Flowy Circle Skirt

The Sleeveless Wrap Dress

The Flutter Dress

The Longline Blazer – Standard or Bicep+

The Go-to T-Shirt

Shoes

The Pointed Flat

The Closed Toe Mule

The Flat Gladiator Sandal

The Block Heeled Sandal

*shown here is the sleeveless wrap dress.

Now, let’s talk FIT my Loves! First I want to say that everything fit phenomenally!!! The pants where comfortable, no muffin top and the fabric had give and stretch so I wasn’t fighting my way in to anything! The dress flowed and encased my curves like a dream!! The adjustable details make all the difference and the button snap enclosure on this inside kept my ladies from busting out but still kept the flowing look the dress was going for! The long sleeve top was also amazing – my arms are constantly struggling with tops because of those size so I’m usually forced to size up which leaves a gaping bust. With Part & Parcel’s sizing not only did this blouse fit perfectly but I was loose around my arms and the bust was perfect!

The SHOES! Y’all the shoes are bloody amazing!! First of all the buckles on the shoes are actually clip in snaps so no needing your partner to help strap you in! The wide width makes all the difference and the soles are comfortable! I could have kept those gladiator sandals on for hours without even noticing I was wearing shoes.

For reference when I discuss sizing and fit: I am a size 18/20 and wear a shoe size of 8w.

Check out the Part & Parcel Catalogue here! To shop the collection send me a message here and we’ll get ya started! To order items you shop through partners which happens to be me 😉

Interested in becoming a Part & Parcel partner to start making an income selling amazing garments to fellow plus bodies – send me a message here and we’ll get ya started on that too!!

Any questions on sizing or how to order, leave a comment below and I’ll get back to you Loves ASAP!!

Leave those thoughts in the comments – I’d love to hear your opinions on the Plus to Plus selling/shopping aspect, as well as the dimensional sizing!! I have major arm issues when I order shirts or blazers so I’m exceptionally excited about this dimensional sizing options!!

Until next time my Loves,

Kat XO

Unboxing Video of the Part & Parcel Partner starter box!

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Lifestyle, Plus Size Fashion, Reviews, self love

Kearney Street Workshop: Celebrate Your Body 2019 Runway Event

Over 300 attendees celebrated a night of diverse fashion and the diverse bodies that wear it!

I had the honor of walking for Swankety Swank , a San Francisco based designer who focuses on sustainable fashion separates for strong and sassy souls by offering hemp garments in ALL sizes!

Now before we dive more in to the fashion aspect I wanted to share a bit about the Kearney Street Workshop and the AMAZING community they’ve built!! K.S.W was founded in 1972, during the height of the Asian American cultural movement, Kearny Street Workshop (KSW) is the oldest Asian Pacific American multidisciplinary arts organization in the country. And they offer classes and workshops, salons, and student presentations, as well as professionally curated and produced exhibitions, performances, readings, and screenings. KSW makes artists out of community members and community members out of artists. For the past 45 years, KSW has nurtured the creative spirit, offered an important platform for new voices to be heard, and connected artists with community. And I can attest to the amazing community that I was so welcomed in to – so many walks of life all coming together to support one another and I have to say it was beyond freaking magical!!

I also want to thank Jason and Nina for making everyone feel welcome and accepted, as well as for bringing everyone together!

As more images and videos of the entire show surface I’ll make sure to update it here because I want you Loves to see it ALL!! From the amazing designers to the utterly fabulous models to our amazing DJ and host – I want you guys to see it all so next year you might come out in person!!

Group shot including models tags below!

Left to right:

Valerie – @Valerienicolelee

Laurel – @laureldickmanwrites

Saucye West – @saucyewest

Tiff Marie – @tiff_exclusive

Nazelah – @supernaz_your_superfriend

Francis – @francizzzle

Micheal Foulk – @michealfoulk

Emma – not listed

And yours truly 😘

Fashion by @swanketyswank / @yabetteswank

Huge shout out to Christine A Donley of @christineadonley_artlover for the amazing shots!!

As a petite fat babe (plus size) it’s not very often I get the chance to participate in runway and honestly – it’s too bad because I belong there. This was one of the most diverse shows I’ve ever had the honor of being apart of! So many talented and amazing people – representation truly matters.

Below are behind the scenes shots and I’ll be adding more images and video as I get them so keep checking back Loves!

Lifestyle, Parenting, Publications, self love

FabUPlus Summer ‘18 Digital Issue Giveaway

So excited to share with you Loves a FREE digital copy of FabUPlus Magazine’s Summer 2018 issue featuring my article Breastfeeding: There Is No Shame, featuring original images shot by House Of Winter.

The article delves in to the stigma formula feeding Mom’s face in public and my own personal experience with medical professionals .

Click the link for your very own copy:

FabUPlus Digital Issue

Now, hopefully you Loves headed over and collected your own copy and meandered back this way for a bit more of an in-depth plunge in to the topic of this plus size mom who was unable to breastfeed and was shamed as a result.

Three months after giving birth I was unable to continue producing breast milk, I was pressured to take prescriptions to induce lactation (that irritated an intestinal condition I deal with on the regular and mind you I was also healing from a c-section) that never worked and even tried herbal remedies (tea that tasted like I was licking the forest floor yuck- which is saying something because I LOVE tea!), I just couldn’t produce it. Mentally I was devastated – I was so prepared to be apart of this group of women who took part of a tradition that has been happening since the beginning of time.

Then you factor in the hormones and changes my body was still going through after giving birth and then having to visit my OB or my daughter’s pediatric doctor: each visit would be bombarded with posters encouraging breast feeding, having to deal with every nurse asking repeatedly why I didn’t breastfeed my child and how much healthier it would be for her if I did, and I’d have to endure this speech and pressure until finally I’d be able to get a word in and tell them I physically couldn’t produce breast milk and boom! End of conversation. Beyond frustrating.

I also had to deal with several public instances where I was told by a fellow shopper that I was “poisoning” my daughter and she’d end up unhealthy and fat like me. I had a cashier judgmentally ask me, “Haven’t you heard how bad it is to feed your baby this stuff?” And I’ve had acquaintances of friends feel free to comment about my lack of health awareness feeding my daughter formula – lack of health awareness meaning I’m fat of course. Insert biggest eye roll possible!

With every frustration I faced I had my daughter’s healthy smile to beam back at me, for every nay-sayer that we encountered my daughter just proved them wrong with every milestone she hit and surpassed, and honestly, that’s the best mute button I’ve encountered to silencing people’s judgements when it comes to parenting.

I’m interested in hearing from my fellow parents: when it came to feeding your little one did you experience any shame or societal pressure for your choices?

Share your experiences below and I’ll make sure to join in on the convo!

Until next time my Loves,

Kat XO

Plus Size Fashion, self love

Anxiety & Bondage

The most basic definition of anxiety and it’s resulting symptoms can be summarized by stating that a person can experience intense and extreme persistent worry and excessive fear about everyday situations resulting in a higher heart rate, rapid breathing, sweating, and exhaustion. Now, if you actually experience anxiety you know that the above statement is more like a sugarcoated way of briefly describing the tip of an anxiety ice burg.

Anxiety symptoms can range from a debilitating fear of leaving the home, to mumbling and social fumbling, black spots behind the eyes and fainting, cold sweats, over heated, nausea, sweaty palms, nervousness, crying, anger and agitation, and depression. These are just a few symptoms and for many people they experience these at different levels and to different degrees. There are prescriptions you can have prescribed as well as working with a therapist that can all help with anxiety and dealing with anxiety.

Now, one of the techniques/tricks/tools I’ve learned while dealing with my own anxiety is that bondage wear can help drastically cut down on any social anxiety I may be experiencing while out at events or social functions where there are large crowds. As a public speaker and someone who is use to big crowds it may sound funny to hear that I experience anxiety about these situations, but like many of you – I do.When I’m in a heavily crowded place my anxiety can start to go through the roof – I worry about taking up space, I worry about bumping in to others, I don’t want other people bumping in to me… the list goes on. And I’ve found that bondage wear helps; a collar/choker, or wearing a harness over the clothing or under drastically cuts down on the anxiety. Why? Simple: for me it feels like I’m in a constant embrace. I feel secure and safe. Which then translates to my entire being that we’re good; my posture straightens, eye contact is no issue, body bumps are no problem, my confidence feels boosted, and having that constant embrace makes me feel almost invincible. Like I could take on the world and do it confidently because I’ve got that support in place.

How many of you Loves experience anxiety attack’s? I’m right there with you. My heart beat will pick up, I’ll start getting the nervous sweats, my skin feels like it’s got creepy crawlers scurrying about, my vision tunnels and it can feel like I’m drowning – catching my breath at that point almost feels impossible. A harness actually helps me deal with this: having the constant reassuring pressure on my chest helped to anchor me and by focusing on that slight pressure I’m able to concentrate not only on the moment at hand but the situation at hand; part of my social anxiety is caused by the constant what if’s in my head (tripping, saying something stupid and embarrassing, outfit disaster). So a harness, for me, is like a reassuring hug that say’s “Hey – stop future tripping bitch you got this!”

Now Loves, I want to point out that scientifically there is also backing that engaging in BDSM activities (Yes, even just wearing the bondage wear) leaves people with lower levels of stress and an increase in cortisol levels which could be attributed to the non-judgmental environment while also experiencing physical intensity and letting go of expectations leaving the person feeling free and therefore releasing tension and anxiety. Often compared to the sensation of a “runner’s high” or mind space of a yoga practitioner.

So in summary; it’s not just about the pleasure but about the feelings the bondage wear can create in the wearer, it’s about feeling secure and safe and allowing that item to help create a sense of safety within yourself.

Huge shout out to my bestie Tami of House Of Winter for shooting this set and Bawdy Love for sponsoring this amazing harness Hecate set, this set had me feeling like a sexy goddess safe and secure in her own skin!!

Had to throw in there that this article was inspired by @iharterika and the incredible work that she does!

And last but certainly not least lol my hubby for just being him (Yes, that’s my husband in the set with me).

Until next time my Loves,

Kat XO

Plus Size Fashion

Where is the Body Diversity when it comes to Photography Art?

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I have a bone to pick with designers/creators/costumers: where are the fat bodies at? I’m not talking about slim bodies in fat suits or making a joke out of plus bodies. No, what I’m referring to are the stylish campaigns like we see with high fashion events and magazine editorials. Now a dear friend of mine would tell me to stop complaining and do something about changing this situation – so Tami (my bestie and go-to photographer) of  House Of Winter   and I decided we would do just that! I’d provide the voluptuous body and Tami not only created the head piece but she also customized the swimsuit…oh, and she did my makeup! Now I would like to point out that Tami has been creating amazing looks and costumes for me for five years now and as a photographer and designer she is all about shooting all shapes, sizes, and walks of life and has been creating her art for many years!

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Every element of this image from the pose to the costume to the background to the way she shot this image and edited it; it truly is a work of art and *gasp* it’s on a plus body! So I decided to pick Tami’s brain and get her input as a creator and fabricator – What gives? Why do we not see more plus bodies in these fantasy/costume editorials, why do so many designers and creators leave out the plus? And her response wasn’t a surprise. It’s not so much about the cost of the extra fabric or materials (because it’s very small), it’s the amount of effort that goes in to costuming a bigger body: patterns have to be adjusted, embellishments take more time because there is more real estate to cover, and designs HAVE to be tweaked to make the fit right. So you may be asking yourself, what’s the big deal with having to add a little extra effort in to creating a look for a plus body?  It took Tami almost the same amount of time to create this look as she did for a size 2 model also shooting this series, she had to spend a little bit longer on my suit only because there was more fabric to cover. Now, this might not ring true with other designers or creators but it does make a little sense when you consider “mainstream plus fashion” labels and how a lot of the times the patterns are very obviously not altered in places they should be and how many brands are all about the fast way of getting that money by cashing in on the BoPo community and truly not caring or considering their plus customers. A topic for another time 😉

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Now I’m not saying there aren’t other photographers and designers out there creating beauty with bigger bodies, there are, but what I want to see is a body like mine in artistic campaigns and editorials that are introduced to mainstream media. I want to see runway shows with size 24 models rocking the runway with as much coverage as the VS Angels runway show, I want to see elaborate designs for plus size bodies and I want it to be in society’s face. Fat does not mean we are not beautiful. Plus size bodies deserve just as much adoration as thinner bodies and we are not going to allow to be hidden. So here I am changing the situation with the help of one incredibly talented friend, and we will continue to do so. I can only hope that with the body positive community demanding change that we will get to that point.

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I’d love to hear what you Loves think – do you think we don’t see more plus size beauties in campaigns like this do to the extra cost, the extra effort it takes, or is it a bit of both? Disagree with me? I’d love to hear why!

Kat XO

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P.S. Hey Disney! I am so ready to be animated in to a princess – well Queen, I think we nailed the Queen look and I think the world is ready for a plus size Disney figure next to Ursula. What?! A lady can dream can’t she?