Lifestyle, Plus Size Fashion, Reviews

Amazing Intimacy Box Review

Dating is what led you to committing to your partner and as your relationship grows there will be times where it can feel like the intimacy your sharing is growing stale. So how do you spice things up? Well, The Amazing Intimacy Box has a few ideas!

What the box contains: a beautiful printed throw, MY JOY Collection A touch of Honey body dust, wireless Bluetooth speaker, two blank hard bound journals and a couple of prompts to get you Love birds going!

The cards… I have to say I loved these cards and the fact that they where themed and geared towards summer play but also had fun and naughty themes for role playing where a series plus! The office, the lake, a late night romp! So much Fun! For example, Card Two – Stranger in the Elevator: the role playing aspect was naughty and we enjoyed the scenario – immensely! It’s not an aspect we’ve particularly explored so it was nice to get out of our heads and do something a little new.

My favorite item in the box, this is hubby’s vote for favorite item as well, had to be the My Joy Collection A Touch of Honey raspberry chocolate sexy body dust! Tasted phenomenal, didn’t clump up when we got sweaty, and didn’t make us sticky. I love an easy clean up 😉

The wireless Bluetooth was such a nice touch, definitely help to set the mood and helped us to get in a positive and relaxed mindset after running around most of that morning. The throw that was included was also a nice touch, the bright pattern definitely helped to brighten our little summer “afternoon rendezvous” 😉

I have to say that having a toddler can leave very little alone time for partners, usually by the end of the day you are both exhausted and ready to sleep so taking the time to set some much needed “Adult time” for your relationship is so important. It doesn’t have to be an expensive trip or huge getaway – here hubby and I snuck out on our balcony while our little one was napping. Even if it’s on a time limit-one on one time is imperative. Romance and intimacy are what help keep relationships going so taking the time to invest in that relationship is just as important as taking a little me time for some healthy self care.

Until next time Loves,

Kat XO

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PinkClove UK: Plus Size Clothing Review

So my Loves, I have to say that I’m in love with Pink Clove UK !! The designs are gorgeous, flirty and fun – the fit for me was great and I LOVED every piece they sent!

Pink Clove’s sizing range is from 12 up to 24, their sizing is in UK standard sizing so it says 16-28 on the site but remember that’s UK sizing so double check it’s the correct size before placing any order! I’m also a petite size 18/20 for reference on size fit here.

All right my Loves – let’s get to the goodies!! This first piece is Pink Clove’s Plus Effie Wrap Front Plunge White Structured Bodysuit Top ! I loved this piece because it truly reminded me of old Hollywood glamour – the neckline with long sleeves is truly divine and oh so elegant! The construction of this body suit is simple and perfect, can be worn with any bottoms. And the best part: snaps at the crotch lol so you Loves aren’t having to completely get naked in the bathrooms stalls!

I really liked how when I did pair the suit with other pieces you couldn’t see a “panty line” bulge through the fabric, a personal pet peeve and aesthetics preference of mine lol!

One of the added benefits of this suit was that my upper arms actually fit the sleeves without being too tight or cutting off circulation. It was a tad warm so I’d suggest paring this beauty with something short and breezy for the summer and spring, winter I’d pair it with anything from pencil skirts to skinny jeans and leggings! The options are limitless!

*set shot by the amazing House Of Winter

The next piece we’re looking at is this gorgeous vintage inspired Plus Sheena Mustard Polka Dot High Neck Midi Dress.

This dress is beyond gorgeous and felt incredible hugging my curves. The loose cap sleeves with the flouncy top complimented my bust to perfection and when paired with the pencil skirt detail – we have perfection!

One detail I loved was the high collar that could be left unbuttoned! This detail made my day for several reasons: you can button up to create a slightly different silhouette, leave undone to create the loose collar look I’m rocking above, or (and my fav) is flip this baby around backwards and you’ve got yourself a totally new look with new details to focus on!

The fabric has plenty of give so I didn’t feel stuffed in to the dress and I loved that I could adjust the hem a bit by bunching the dress wherever I wanted (would pull up the fabric a little closer to my bust so it wasn’t overly hugging my belly) and it still looked natural and fit well.

My personal fav is up next!! The Plus Pamella Mustard Checked Straight Leg Trousers! These babies are giving me serious Clueless vibes!!

These pants are just fabulous!! The color is amazing and the pattern is perfect but I will say my belly had issues with the simple elastic waistband and having wide calves I did have to wriggle them up, other than that these are perfect statement trousers!

The length for me was perfect (I’m 5’1) so anybody taller it would be more of an above ankle hem. I want to add too that these are super comfortable! I’ve found myself grabbing these repeatedly just to go out and run errands.

And last but certainly not least, we have the Plus Judy Wide Leg Stripe Trouser ! Now, these pants are so much freaking fun to wear!!

The colored stripes are a gorgeous touch to these pants, and like the mustard pants I do have belly trouble with the simple elastic band, other than that these pants fit to perfection around my waist and thighs!! Because I am so petite when I don’t wear heels I have to pin the hem of the pants so they don’t drag on the ground – other than that this pair of pants fit wonderfully!! Super comfy to wear and the high leg slit was so much fun to play with… Y’all know I love flashing my legs as often as possible so this classy way of flashing some calf had me over the moon in fashion happiness! Hmmm, can you Loves tell I had fun wearing these babies lol because I totally did!!

All right My Loves – until next time!

Kat XO

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Kearney Street Workshop: Celebrate Your Body 2019 Runway Event

Over 300 attendees celebrated a night of diverse fashion and the diverse bodies that wear it!

I had the honor of walking for Swankety Swank , a San Francisco based designer who focuses on sustainable fashion separates for strong and sassy souls by offering hemp garments in ALL sizes!

Now before we dive more in to the fashion aspect I wanted to share a bit about the Kearney Street Workshop and the AMAZING community they’ve built!! K.S.W was founded in 1972, during the height of the Asian American cultural movement, Kearny Street Workshop (KSW) is the oldest Asian Pacific American multidisciplinary arts organization in the country. And they offer classes and workshops, salons, and student presentations, as well as professionally curated and produced exhibitions, performances, readings, and screenings. KSW makes artists out of community members and community members out of artists. For the past 45 years, KSW has nurtured the creative spirit, offered an important platform for new voices to be heard, and connected artists with community. And I can attest to the amazing community that I was so welcomed in to – so many walks of life all coming together to support one another and I have to say it was beyond freaking magical!!

I also want to thank Jason and Nina for making everyone feel welcome and accepted, as well as for bringing everyone together!

As more images and videos of the entire show surface I’ll make sure to update it here because I want you Loves to see it ALL!! From the amazing designers to the utterly fabulous models to our amazing DJ and host – I want you guys to see it all so next year you might come out in person!!

Group shot including models tags below!

Left to right:

Valerie – @Valerienicolelee

Laurel – @laureldickmanwrites

Saucye West – @saucyewest

Tiff Marie – @tiff_exclusive

Nazelah – @supernaz_your_superfriend

Francis – @francizzzle

Micheal Foulk – @michealfoulk

Emma – not listed

And yours truly 😘

Fashion by @swanketyswank / @yabetteswank

Huge shout out to Christine A Donley of @christineadonley_artlover for the amazing shots!!

As a petite fat babe (plus size) it’s not very often I get the chance to participate in runway and honestly – it’s too bad because I belong there. This was one of the most diverse shows I’ve ever had the honor of being apart of! So many talented and amazing people – representation truly matters.

Below are behind the scenes shots and I’ll be adding more images and video as I get them so keep checking back Loves!

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Where is the Body Diversity when it comes to Photography Art?

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I have a bone to pick with designers/creators/costumers: where are the fat bodies at? I’m not talking about slim bodies in fat suits or making a joke out of plus bodies. No, what I’m referring to are the stylish campaigns like we see with high fashion events and magazine editorials. Now a dear friend of mine would tell me to stop complaining and do something about changing this situation – so Tami (my bestie and go-to photographer) of  House Of Winter   and I decided we would do just that! I’d provide the voluptuous body and Tami not only created the head piece but she also customized the swimsuit…oh, and she did my makeup! Now I would like to point out that Tami has been creating amazing looks and costumes for me for five years now and as a photographer and designer she is all about shooting all shapes, sizes, and walks of life and has been creating her art for many years!

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Every element of this image from the pose to the costume to the background to the way she shot this image and edited it; it truly is a work of art and *gasp* it’s on a plus body! So I decided to pick Tami’s brain and get her input as a creator and fabricator – What gives? Why do we not see more plus bodies in these fantasy/costume editorials, why do so many designers and creators leave out the plus? And her response wasn’t a surprise. It’s not so much about the cost of the extra fabric or materials (because it’s very small), it’s the amount of effort that goes in to costuming a bigger body: patterns have to be adjusted, embellishments take more time because there is more real estate to cover, and designs HAVE to be tweaked to make the fit right. So you may be asking yourself, what’s the big deal with having to add a little extra effort in to creating a look for a plus body?  It took Tami almost the same amount of time to create this look as she did for a size 2 model also shooting this series, she had to spend a little bit longer on my suit only because there was more fabric to cover. Now, this might not ring true with other designers or creators but it does make a little sense when you consider “mainstream plus fashion” labels and how a lot of the times the patterns are very obviously not altered in places they should be and how many brands are all about the fast way of getting that money by cashing in on the BoPo community and truly not caring or considering their plus customers. A topic for another time 😉

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Now I’m not saying there aren’t other photographers and designers out there creating beauty with bigger bodies, there are, but what I want to see is a body like mine in artistic campaigns and editorials that are introduced to mainstream media. I want to see runway shows with size 24 models rocking the runway with as much coverage as the VS Angels runway show, I want to see elaborate designs for plus size bodies and I want it to be in society’s face. Fat does not mean we are not beautiful. Plus size bodies deserve just as much adoration as thinner bodies and we are not going to allow to be hidden. So here I am changing the situation with the help of one incredibly talented friend, and we will continue to do so. I can only hope that with the body positive community demanding change that we will get to that point.

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I’d love to hear what you Loves think – do you think we don’t see more plus size beauties in campaigns like this do to the extra cost, the extra effort it takes, or is it a bit of both? Disagree with me? I’d love to hear why!

Kat XO

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P.S. Hey Disney! I am so ready to be animated in to a princess – well Queen, I think we nailed the Queen look and I think the world is ready for a plus size Disney figure next to Ursula. What?! A lady can dream can’t she?

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Thirty & Thriving: How I Plan To Embrace A Bolder Wardrobe

If you happened to peek in to my closet about 90% of what I own happens to be in the color black. This isn’t a bad thing but this truly got me to thinking. As a plus size child I was always taught that darker colors are the wiser choice simply because they are slimming and more “flattering” for a fat body. So of course when clothing was suggested the darker shades took the top and the brighter tones got shoved to the bottom. It was a way to minimize my appearance to appear less big. Hell of a thing for a child to have to consider but that’s beside the point.

Now when you look around my home you’ll see tons of color! From artwork to photographs, furniture (my living room set is green for goodness sakes) my tattoos, and even down to my occasional shift of hair color (I like when my hair is pink almost as much as my natural red)and nail polish… which happens to currently be a bright electric blue. I Love Color. So why then doesn’t my wardrobe reflect this? In a moment of self reflection I began to wonder: Do I really truly love to wear the color black that much or has my brain just been rewired to make clothing in this color my top choice to make myself appear “smaller” because of the constant reinforcement that fat bodies have to be slimmed down?

Well Loves, I don’t have an answer for you yet but we’re going to figure this out together. Every year on my birthday I try to make a promise to myself to work on an aspect of self growth – so what better promise to make to myself for the big 3-O!! For the rest of this year I plan on forcing myself to choose brighter shades of color and resist the temptation to buy everything in black lol! You may be asking why I plan to do this and I’m gladly going to share my reasoning with you : if the reason my wardrobe is 90% black is truly because my brain has been conditioned to choose the more slimming shades as a result from the pressure from diet culture and bullying then I need to reclaim that part of my brain and rewire it to re-include color back in my wardrobe. Think about it – that’s a huge portion of fashion choices that I unintentionally removed myself from because my brain wasn’t thinking correctly. And it’s time to take those choices back.

Kind of like when I started calling myself a fat babe. For years I would take the word Fat as an insult. A truly low blow word that would bring this toxic feeling of inadequacy and shame to me. When I reclaimed this word I reprogrammed my brain to reject the idea that this word had any negative power. It’s a word that describes something and it doesn’t have to be negative or positive so why not use my own power to make the word FAT a positive one?

I plan on exploring new brands, new color options and bold choices to ring in my Thirtieth year on this earth and I hope you Loves will join me!

Kat XO

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